The Hardest Part of Marriage You Won't Be Told
Marriage is sweet when you examine it from a far, of those who have successful marriage or the lovey-dovey of newlyweds, but when you enter into, you will discover that what is behind number six is more than number seven.
Many prepare so well for the romantic aspects of marriage, but very few groom themselves for the realities in marriage. Do you know that the hardest part of marriage plays a dominant role in marriage than the romantic moments?
However, what breaks marriage isn't the lack of romance, but the couple's inability to withstand the hardest part of marriage.
There are some hard things about marriage that you are not likely to be told, but I will only share 5 of them with you.
1. Staying faithful
It's easy to abstain from sex as singles if you have not tasted how sweet sex is, but it's very difficult to stay faithful in marriage when you are denied sex for no just reason.
The temptation to commit adultery is greater than the temptation to fornicate as singles.
Because you now know how sex taste, seduction would come from those who are willing to give you or have a fling with you. In some cases, when your spouse becomes cold on sex matters, there are several others who want to give you a hot and sizzling sex.
You need more discipline to stay faithful in marriage to your spouse emotionally, and sexually especially in this age when cheating has become a norm.
If you have not been faithful to stay sexually pure now that you are single, it will be very difficult for you to master it when you are married.
Marriage doesn't cure adultery, self control does!
2. Sexual Issues
See, it is wise that you keep yourself sexually pure till marriage - purity in thoughts, action and word. All those who are deceiving you that who virginity epp only want to destroy you.
One of the hardest part about marriage which many cannot come by is on the issue of sex. One partner is a novice while the other is an Emeritus professor in lovemaking; one has a high sexual libido while the other can stay for months without it and still feel sane.
Virginity helps you to be sexually discipline, it prevents you from undue and ungodly exposure to sex that could either make you hate it with perfect hatred or make you a maniac in it.
3. Money matters
Since it's said that money answers all things, money also destroys many things. As money can spice up love in marriages, it can also ruin it.
What is your perception about money?
Can you pull your purse together or separately?
As a woman, do you have the warped mentality of my money is my money, but your money is our money?
As a man, are you ready to work and earn a living or you want to live on your wife's income while dictating how the money will be spent without bringing anything to the table?
Can you open up to your partner about your financial life without secretly building an estate in the village while you feed on his or her money like a parasite?
Until you two resolve this before marriage and in marriage, it is hard enough to crack the nut of your marital bliss.
4. Unmet expectations
If you have been dreaming of having her remain a slim shady, but eventually after pregnancy, she became a size 15, how would you cope?
If he had been the romantic and available man, but after marriage, the quest for green pasture took him miles away, can you survive this?
It is wise and better to prepare for the toughest part of marriage so that you can cope with them when they come, surely they will come. As much as you prepare for sunshine, don't forget to prepare for storms when they come before rain falls.
5. Handling differences
Whether you agree or not, handling differences is one of the leading causes of divorce in marriage. Many marriages fail due to irreconcilable differences.
How do you plan to reconcile your differences in marriage should they come?
If he presses the toothpaste from the middle, and she had been raised to be meticulous by pressing it neatly from the base, can you tolerate this?
If she likes the food cold or warm, and you prefer it hot with steaming heat, can you adjust?
These and many others are the toughest part of marriage that you must brace up for. Wedding is just a day or two event but marriage is a lifetime journey.
More than the excitement of the married life, more than the grandeur wedding ceremony, have you been transformed by the renewing of your mind to face any challenge in marriage when they come?
Delay in child bearing, loss of job, relocation, in law issues, financial crisis, trying times or spiritual issues may come; you need to be prepared for whichever one life throws at you so you don't chicken out when they come.
Marriage is haaaard, I'm not scaring you; it's just one of those truths you might not likely be told or you don't want to hear. Finding the right person to marry is hard, but staying married is the hardest in the face of life's realities.
As much as you are preparing for the romantic sides, brew your mind for the hardest part so you can stand having done all when the flood descend, when the rain falls and the wind beats upon your union.
© The Chronicle
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